When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never tried before. - Mae West

Jason · Only in cartoons

RE: People who are getting married before 25

cheeselover · I NEED BABIES!!!

DEATHPIGGIE wrote:

People eventually just stop loving eachother. I'd hate to be in a marriage that falls apart.

Once again, this seems like a critique of all marriage, not just marriages that begin before the age of 25.

DEATHPIGGIE · I'm fat and nobody likes me

Jason wrote:

DEATHPIGGIE wrote:

People eventually just stop loving eachother [sic].

If you mean "some people" then your statement is obviously (and trivially) true.
If you mean "all people" then your statement is obviously false.

An incredible majority of people. Of course I know you and Cheese to some extent, and you don't seem like irresponsible kids or anything. It wasn't specifically a judgment on you. I do know these people as well, though, and it's almost always a bad decision to get married young.

Jason · Only in cartoons

Of course most marriages don't end well. Over half of them end in divorce. This is true whether you're young and desperate to feel like an adult or whether you're an adult and desperate to feel like you're settled and accomplished in life. People get married for stupid reasons all the time.

pumpkinpjs · Tits and Grits

all i keep thinking is, what makes you so different? if over half of them end in divorce... do you really think youre so special? noone PLANS on getting divorced. as well as you think you know that other person, you really have no control over wether or not they just wake up one morning feeling completely different than they did the day they married you. then youre screwed

cheeselover · I NEED BABIES!!!

Once again, I see this as a critique of all marriage, not specifically marriage before 25.

pumpkinpjs · Tits and Grits

well yeah, i never specified

Jason · Only in cartoons

If you're just anti-marriage, that's a separate issue.

pumpkinpjs · Tits and Grits

eh, its the most effective way to avoid divorce. much like abstinence is the best way to avoid stds and unwanted pregnancy. im gonna go ahead and insist thats why im single right now. HA!

Awkward Smile · Inconsiderate Hardcore Lesbian

Pinkafro · Senior Member

actually, thats one thing that IS stupid, that i was randomly discussing with a friend yesterday - all the young christians who get married so they can have sex. 6 months down the line they realise they just got married out of sexual desire, and they didnt really LOVE each other, and they're stuck in a ****ty marriage with someone they dont really like anymore.

Jason · Only in cartoons

Divorce might not be desirable, but it ain't the end of the world.

cheeselover · I NEED BABIES!!!

Uh...

Jason · Only in cartoons

Jason wrote:

Divorce might not be desirable

All I'm saying is that people in ****ty marriages should leave.

Pinkafro · Senior Member

my point with christians being stuck is often due to faith/social circle divorce isnt really acceptable, so for them they are stuck with the person they were horny for when they were 17 but were not really compatible with.

i do think people often rush into divorce now though.. marriage will have rough patches, thats just the way it goes, and i think especially if there are kids, people should try a lot harder to make things work.

but yes, it isnt the end of the world. i will still continue to judge people who have had several failed marriages though, and women who have several children each from a different marriage or just non marriage fathers.

cheeselover · I NEED BABIES!!!

Pinkafro wrote:

my point with christians being stuck is often due to faith/social circle divorce isnt really acceptable, so for them they are stuck with the person they were horny for when they were 17 but were not really compatible with.

I'm pretty sure Jason understood what you meant with all of this. We are from the worst part of the Bible belt and see this all too often.

Jason · Only in cartoons

I wasn't responding specifically to Pinkafro, but to the general consensus that a vague possibility of divorce is reason enough not to get married.

cheeselover · I NEED BABIES!!!

Right, but I think Pinkafro was responding to you. I was assuring her that you understand what she is saying.

Dexter · Worst Poster of Always

I don't believe in marriage before 25, or marriage before LIVING with someone for at least two years. Anyone doing otherwise is just setting themselves up for failure or an extremely rough marriage.

Awkward Smile · Inconsiderate Hardcore Lesbian

Pinkafro wrote:

actually, thats one thing that IS stupid, that i was randomly discussing with a friend yesterday - all the young christians who get married so they can have sex. 6 months down the line they realise they just got married out of sexual desire, and they didnt really LOVE each other, and they're stuck in a ****ty marriage with someone they dont really like anymore.

My friend's cousin actually did this. She said it was so obvious they just wanted to have sex because they had a quick and crappy wedding, and they went to a local hotel for their "honey moon." So I'm guessing they didn't even have their own place yet.