hello leykis :P

Lykis told people to NOT get married ever. There is no connection here.

Sorry Deathpiggie, I didn't mean to defend you, it won't ever happen again.

what im sick of is people getting knocked up. its like condoms dont exist anymore

Jason wrote:

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A lot of people, young and old, get married to people they shouldn't marry. But for people who have found a person they can have a long and happy marriage with, I see no reason to delay it past the age of 25 just because their peers fear commitment and maturity.

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Pursuing other options.  Time and experience makes fools of us all.  You haven't lived even 1/3rd of your expected life yet.  Especially if you're just getting out of college, why not wait a bit? Get a stable career and income?

I agree with Mathsex.

It's different for everybody. Most of my friends are horrified at the thought of marriage within the next 5 years. That's perfectly fine. However, that doesn't mean it's the wrong choice for everyone.

Besides, why do you need to be settled in your career and all that to get married? I don't plan on supporting my spouse or being supported by him (financially), so what's the difference? A good spouse will encourage you in your career and ambitions. Babies are a different story.

Some things you just know. Also, some people mature sooner than others.

I agree that marriage should be taken seriously and not entered into lightly, but I don't think that means you have to wait until you are X years old and have known the person for Y years.

You need to make smart decisions. Marriage comes with as much weight as it used to, and people's lives can be ****ed up by getting a divorce. Be serious about commitment. I don't respect divorcees that much, unless their spouse went totally boinkers.

I don't see what your critique has to do with being under 25; I see a lot of older couples making stupid decisions too.

DEATHPIGGIE wrote:

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It's a permanent decision. Most college students, whether they like it or not, are still somewhat immature and whimsical. Marriage has become far less serious a thing in quite a quick amount of time, it seems. I'd never dare marry anyone I didn't know for at least 10 years.

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10 years?!?

I think this is all well and good for a guy to say, but many get married as they want the family set up, and women can't wait forever before they decide to start trying. And personally I'd like to be married a while before starting to have children. If a woman was to come out of college, begin a career, meet someone they like in their early/mid twenties, be with the person for ten years, get married, enjoy a few years of married like before trying for a baby, she'd be in her forties, and most likely experience difficulties and/or complications, or not be able to have children at all.

I aggree it is often silly when you see kids at uni or often before at just 17/18 becoming engaged to their partners of a few months, but these people often decide to have long engagements so that they are out of uni and been together years before actually getting married, so if it works fair play to them.

i've personally always liked the idea of getting married before the age of 25, because i'd quite like to have children while my body is still young and can cope with it better, and then once they are in school i can go back to work not old but without them having to worry that i'd bugger off on maternity leave, cos i'll have done all that