A lot of people, young and old, get married to people they shouldn't marry. But for people who have found a person they can have a long and happy marriage with, I see no reason to delay it past the age of 25 just because their peers fear commitment and maturity.
A lot of people, young and old, get married to people they shouldn't marry. But for people who have found a person they can have a long and happy marriage with, I see no reason to delay it past the age of 25 just because their peers fear commitment and maturity.
Pursuing other options. Time and experience makes fools of us all. You haven't lived even 1/3rd of your expected life yet. Especially if you're just getting out of college, why not wait a bit? Get a stable career and income?
You're idiots. If I see one more person of college age with an "Engaged" status on their facebook, I'm going to flip **** on them. Pursuing other options. Time and experience makes fools of us all. You haven't lived even 1/3rd of your expected life yet. Especially if you're just getting out of college, why not wait a bit? Get a stable career and income?
A) you're just jealous
B) last time i checked, the traditional college student graduated well before turning 25
C) holding off on having children until a stable job-and therefore income-is achieved is a fantastic idea. however, if spending the rest of your life with your soulmate is your goal, then basing the career path and children off of a cornerstone isn't a bad idea either
It's different for everybody. Most of my friends are horrified at the thought of marriage within the next 5 years. That's perfectly fine. However, that doesn't mean it's the wrong choice for everyone.
Besides, why do you need to be settled in your career and all that to get married? I don't plan on supporting my spouse or being supported by him (financially), so what's the difference? A good spouse will encourage you in your career and ambitions. Babies are a different story.
It's a permanent decision. Most college students, whether they like it or not, are still somewhat immature and whimsical. Marriage has become far less serious a thing in quite a quick amount of time, it seems. I'd never dare marry anyone I didn't know for at least 10 years.
Some things you just know. Also, some people mature sooner than others.
I agree that marriage should be taken seriously and not entered into lightly, but I don't think that means you have to wait until you are X years old and have known the person for Y years.
You need to make smart decisions. Marriage comes with as much weight as it used to, and people's lives can be ****ed up by getting a divorce. Be serious about commitment. I don't respect divorcees that much, unless their spouse went totally boinkers.
It's a permanent decision. Most college students, whether they like it or not, are still somewhat immature and whimsical. Marriage has become far less serious a thing in quite a quick amount of time, it seems. I'd never dare marry anyone I didn't know for at least 10 years.
10 years?!?
I think this is all well and good for a guy to say, but many get married as they want the family set up, and women can't wait forever before they decide to start trying. And personally I'd like to be married a while before starting to have children. If a woman was to come out of college, begin a career, meet someone they like in their early/mid twenties, be with the person for ten years, get married, enjoy a few years of married like before trying for a baby, she'd be in her forties, and most likely experience difficulties and/or complications, or not be able to have children at all.
I aggree it is often silly when you see kids at uni or often before at just 17/18 becoming engaged to their partners of a few months, but these people often decide to have long engagements so that they are out of uni and been together years before actually getting married, so if it works fair play to them.
i've personally always liked the idea of getting married before the age of 25, because i'd quite like to have children while my body is still young and can cope with it better, and then once they are in school i can go back to work not old but without them having to worry that i'd bugger off on maternity leave, cos i'll have done all that
Ditto, Pink (and may I say, it's really cute when you say "bugger"). If I get married in 2011 I'll be 23 and will have been dating my boyfriend for over 6 years. This leaves a good 4+ years of married life for lots of sex and travel, plus becoming financially stable before trying to have babies. I guess that makes me stupid though because I won't be 25 or have known my husband for 10 years. Damn. Thanks for enlightening me, I'm totally going to push back my wedding 4 years.