I worked with a half aboriginal guy for about a year. He could tick just about every box in the stereotypical lazy aboriginal category. He was an alcoholic, drug adict, thief and overall lazy cunt. We used to call him nigger all the time.
Eh, as far as the -er form goes, I avoid saying it, or indeed thinking it, and I've been known to pull up friends thats use it; it just seems to have inevitably dergotative connotations, and certainly they've always used it as an insult. The -a ending seems to have a whole different meaning, a whole different 'feel' to it, I guess. I don't know many black people tbh, but if I did, I suppose I might fall into using it amongst friends, and that's probably not a problem.